Don’t argue over politics
- With national news consuming so much dinner table talk, hot button issues can lead to may-day situations quick if there’s already tension between divorced or blended families during the holidays. Avoid political discussions that could lead to disagreements if at all possible. Keep topics merry and bright.
Don’t bring up the past
- New or changing family dynamics can already be stressful and sometimes painful for those involved. For this reason, it’s best to not keep score of the naughty list. Avoid adding salt to any healing wounds.
Don’t use holidays as an opportunity to negotiate terms
- If financial or custody agreements could use revisiting, call your legal team to explore options and set times to discuss with other parties or their lawyers. But perhaps wait until the after family feast is served, before serving any papers of your own.
Do Communicate Calendars
- Sharing time on the holidays is easier when calendars are being shared too. Collaborate on the plan with plenty of time in advance. Make a plan B, and C while you’re at it to account for any unforeseen scheduling circumstances. Mediation with your legal team can help out.
Do Make a Paper Trail
- As divorces proceed, finances can come in to question and holiday spending could wrapped up in the mess. The best way to keep track is to document everything and hold on to those receipts.
Do Be Civil
- Divorce could be bitter, but you can avoid being put on the judge’s naughty list by ensuring all your communications, whether electronic or in person, are nice.
Do Count The Blessings
- As you’re gathering with your family, however blended or extended it may be, carve out time to put the Grinch away and share what you’re grateful for. Family bonding is just what Saint Nick ordered.